Saturday, April 26, 2008

Bird Bidet?

Yesterday we took the bus downtown for a little field trip. Our plan was to ride the monorail to fulfill the desire to ride a "real train." Unfortunately it was closed for repairs so we had to improvise. One trip to Godiva later, we were out in the formerly pedestrian mall area by Westlake to have a snack and enjoy the sunshine. We watched the birds having a splash in the fountain.

The pigeons were really taking advantage of the angle of the water to get a thorough shower. I think this may be Seattle's biggest birdbath.

It was almost more fun that we didn't get to ride the train, because just slowing down and being somewhere new was a good adventure. I was very pleased at how easy it was to take the bus now that Adelaide can walk farther, and she thought it was great. We also had good luck with people being friendly to us, too. Maybe the sunny weather was helping everyone feel more outgoing, but we had at least 4 different people start a conversation with us and we got help from more than one person on the bus. I look forward to less time in our car as the weather improves and more time on foot, on the bus, and on our bikes.

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

The Star of the Show

Adelaide called me into her room this morning to see her picture. "It's a picture of me!" she explained. "And see the squiggly lines down here? That's the audience. Cause I'm in a movie, and they are watching my movie."Kind of sums up my life as a mom right now.

Tuesday, April 22, 2008

Earth Day retreat

I spent the weekend at Ocean Shores on a yoga retreat for Earth Day. It was a wonderful weekend of fabulous food, longs walks on the beach, good conversation and of course, deep yoga sessions. I carpooled with 3 other women, 2 of whom I had met on a previous retreat and 1 I was meeting for the first time.

As we drove we experienced more types of weather than one usually would in a month -- hail, rain, bright sun, snow and sleet all took turns at the car's windshield. Driving home from yoga class on Monday I jotted down some lines about the last few weeks:

Spring is confused this year
white snow, snow white cherry blossoms
toss in the wind, mixing
folding fleece pants on a seventy-degree Saturday
shorts sitting forlorn in a Monday hailstorm
I strive for patience
yet I yearn to break from winter's closed door
into the unfurling
Spring

On the beach we had incredible luck with some sunshine and migrating shore birds. Our resident biologist, Brent, told us that the group we saw was likely 4 or 5000 in total.
Their dance was too beautiful to capture with still photography, but you can get a sense of the size of the group.
The birds had amazing movement, and rarely showed the kind of chaos you can see here.At one point in our walk we saw what must have been the hot spot for perch. I didn't want to bother the fishermen for a photo, but some of them had a net they wore in their waistband for the fish they had caught.Overall, it was a great way to spend some time re-connecting with nature and thinking about Earth Day. The drive home was difficult, both because I was anxious to be home and see my family, and also because I was sad the retreat had come to a close. It is not often enough that I can leave behind thoughts of work, chores, and all things electronic and walk on the beach for hours.

So when I pulled up in front of my house, full of good thoughts of green living, I was surprised to find an incredibly enormous vehicle parked on the street. I had not seen one of this make before, and found the name to be fitting:


Such a good name for something will use the same amount of gas as an entire fleet of normal cars.

Friday, April 18, 2008

Blogging in real time, part 1

9:30 p.m., Thursday
Cat is crashing around like a wild beast. Child is still awake, trying to enforce the rules ("be quiet, Iris! It's night-night time!) while violating them by screaming out her reminders.

11:34 p.m. Thursday
Stumble to the bathroom to pee. Stumble back to bed, trip over giant toy mouse left on doorstep by loyal cat.

5:30 a.m. Friday
Child calls out to indicate a need to pee. Yell out to her to go ahead, and stumble out of bed to be next in line for the bathroom.

5:31 a.m. Friday
Child's voice is at volume appropriate for getting attention across a crowded playground. Cringe, and lie to child, "It's the middle of the night. Use a quiet voice." Child uses stage whisper to boast about endurance for sleep without peeing ("wasn't that a long time that I sleeped without going pee?).

5:33 a.m. Friday
Lurch back into bed as quickly as possible, praying that cat does not follow with toy mouse.

5:34 a.m. to 5:56 a.m. Friday
Try to stop mind from racing in order to grab a few more minutes of sleep. Mind jumps back and forth between the following:
  • Tentative packing list for yoga retreat beginning this afternoon
  • Listening to and also trying to tune out indications from across the hall that child will not be going back to sleep and staying asleep until some sort of luxurious hour like 6:30
  • Singing opening tune from Tiny Tots with the Seattle Symphony ("The Sym-phon-eeeee, The Sym-phon-eeeee, we love to hear, the Sym-phon-eeeeee)
  • Where to park for the symphony this morning
  • Whether there will be time to do anything downtown before the Symphony this morning (since it looks like we have an early start to the day)
  • What the weather will be on the coast this weekend
  • Back to the packing list
  • Tentative meal planning for the day
  • Tentative chore planning for Sunday after the yoga retreat
  • Chiding self for thinking of Sunday chores and getting slightly depressed about the end of a wonderful weekend prior to it even starting
  • Other things, which I cannot recall or do not wish to post on the internet
6:02 a.m.
Child calls out "I'm ready to wake up!" Debate with self, do I reward 20 minutes of somewhat quiet resting in bed, or do I give a strong indicator that this is too early to be getting up under any circumstances.

6:03 a.m.
Call out "I'm not! It's still nighttime!"

6:03:30 a.m. - 6:10:30 a.m.
Foolishly attempt to block out noise of disgruntled, wide-awake child with earplug and pillow over head. Get further and further from any semblance of sleep or relaxation.

6:11 a.m.
Call out "You can get up now!"

6:11:05 a.m.
Crack open one eyelid and see this:

6:12 a.m.
Snuggle child in bed. Decide that the best cure for early morning grumpiness is a 4 year-old child in pink-heart fleece p.j.s.


6:22 a.m.
Change mind. Decide best cure for early morning grumpiness is a very large, very strong cup of coffee.

Tuesday, April 15, 2008

Think Pink

Time for a true confession. I love a tv show that some people might have a hard time understanding the beauty of. This tv show will be airing later tonight (it's already over for my lucky friends on the east coast, who also love this show, and who shall remain nameless). Tonight is the big finale, so this true confession comes too late to convert anyone to watching this show. Except perhaps if it returns for another season, which I so hope it does.

The thing is, while it might be kind of cheesy reality programming, while it might seem like pure voyeuristic crap, it's really inspirational. It's about people recognizing that they have a serious problem, and taking difficult steps to overcome their issue and improve their lives. It's a problem which more and more Americans have, and more and more children in America have.

So, I love "Biggest Loser," and I'm not ashamed to admit it. Well, maybe a little ashamed, but check these people out.
They weren't too ashamed to admit that things had gotten out of hand, and they weren't too proud to admit they needed to learn about how to eat and how to exercise, and they weren't too embarrassed about how bad things had gotten to step on a giant scale on national tv with very little covering their obese bodies. And now, they look like this:


That just kicks some serious booty. Because it's not just about how they look, it's about them taking responsibility and action to make themselves healthier and happier. And if people watching get up off the couch and throw away their Big Gulps and Aisan Rollers because they see that they too might be able to change things for the better, then I say more power to them. I hope the show is popular and starts a trend of similar self-improvement programming to balance out some of the other things being billed as entertainment on the airwaves. Let's see, how about a show where people learn how to reduce their carbon footprint? Or how to treat people around them with compassion and open-mindedness? Seems to me we could all use a little inspiration delivered in an entertaining, easy to absorb package.

Sunday, April 13, 2008

Four Thousand Words, 4 years old

Today was Adelaide's 4th birthday party. Her actual birthday was on the 9th, which was a school day for us and so we kept the celebration pretty simple. When you're four, the word birthday pretty much means birthday party (which translates to "cupcake."). So we had to call this day the "birthday party day," and the 9th "birthday day."

The day began at dawn with the morning's usual call "Mama! I'm ready to wake up!" Today it was followed immediately by "when is everyone coming?". Um, let's see, 11:00 a.m., that would be IN FIVE HOURS. Good for last-minute cleaning, cooking, and cupcake decorating, not so good for a four year-old with limited understanding of time concepts and a lot of excitement at the prospect of 10 friends coming to play, all at once.

Somehow we made it through those hours (who am I kidding, the truth is we called upon our rarely used but totally reliable babysitter, Steve, and his semi-verbal dog, Blue, to organize a treasure hunt, pajama party and trip to school to make the time pass. Got your handy-dandy notebook?) and the guests began to arrive. And everything went swimmingly -- kids organized themselves and moved between playing in the yard and ransacking the toys, adults got coffee and fixed plates for kids zooming past for a snack break. It was relaxed, friendly and pretty much a smooth ride start to finish.

We took some pictures and a little bit of video which I have yet to look at, but one of the toys getting passed around was Adelaide's own digital camera. I never actually saw it in use, but after the party I decided to check out what our preschooler friends thought was important to capture from the event.

I'll spare you the thumbs, all white and all black photos, and the shots of the floor (there were plenty of all three) but here are a few of my favorites.

Stella and Kate on the slide.

Pieter (during the daddy dodgeball game, perhaps?).
Sam, aiming for a daddy, and Pieter, going to re-load for another shot.

The birthday girl, taking a minute to enjoy it all.

Sunday, April 6, 2008

Drop and give me 20, and also namaste

A couple of months ago I was at an exercise class that I do with people that I work with. It's called "bootcamp" and the basic idea is that we always do part if not all of the exercise outdoors. The instructor leads us through some cardio and calisthenics, plus a little bit of weight training. The things I like about it are the peer pressure (something about running around our building with colleagues makes me push myself more than being alone or with strangers at the gym), the fresh air (some days I feel like I don't have any idea what the weather is outside, as I am in all day at work) and the variety of exercises that we do.

At this particular class, the instructor had us working on balance in tree pose. She asked if anyone did yoga, which most of the people had tried but not practiced regularly. I was the exception. People shared their experiences (I also like this class because we all chat) and the instructor made a careful but still somewhat negative comment, which was that she had experienced yoga fans to be what she called "snobs." It wasn't a global denouncement. I think it somehow came out as "yoga snobs" or "exercise snobs," but the tone was that people who were really into yoga were elitists when it came to exercise.

I wasn't sure how to react to this comment, and I didn't really at the time. But it kept coming back to me, perhaps because I was trying to determine what she meant, and how I felt about it. I could have been offended, I suppose, because I absolutely love yoga and it is very important to me. I could have been defensive, feeling like she was slighting instructors that I care very much for and who provide me with much more than an exercise routine. I could have been surprised, since so much of yoga is about self acceptance and being okay with how things are. But I think I didn't have those reactions because I practice yoga when I am on my yoga mat, and I practice yoga in my daily life. So when she made the comment, I observed it, and let it pass. When the comment returned to me a few times, I considered it, and let it pass. When I thought about what I wanted to write today, I thought about some of my experiences with yoga of late, and I thought about her comment.

I can't say for certain what experiences led her to the feeling that "yoga people" are snobs. I've certainly seen opinionated instructors be somewhat rigid about the asanas, the body alignment, the value of yoga above and beyond the physical practice. I have observed certain personality types that are a little on the OCD side, like the instructor who wanted all the mats lined up exactly so he could check alignment. (Or maybe so he could relax because if the mats had been random, his head would have exploded, since he couldn't make it so everyone's body was exactly the same). Maybe someone else who did her bootcamp had a criticism of a stretch or a yoga pose that she was using and she took it personally. I can think of a number of reasons she could have come to this conclusion.

The conclusion I reached of late is quite different. I have been going to the same yoga studio for seven years now, and taking yoga with a variety of instructors. I have gone through various stages of flexibility and inflexiblity, both in the physcial sense and in my ability to cope with changes in instructors and styles. Last week I went to a yoga class at my gym. I must admit, I had certain expectations about what the class would be like. I guess I had fairly low expectations since I had been to yoga at various gyms and had found it to be more of a "yoga-like" exercise class. (This is my inner yoga snob speaking.) But I was excited to have another opportunity to get on my mat, regardless of what the class or the instructor was like. As it turned out, I loved the class. It was not particularly creative, and the bright florescent lights and floor to ceiling mirrors did not encourage the meditative mind, but it was yoga for me, very much so. While we were going through the asanas I felt very much at peace being surrounded by all of the other people. Because even though I wasn't in a studio with an altar and mood lighting, there was a real sense of union for me in that space. Everyone was trying to be in the moment, working at whatever level they could, and being respectful of the space and the others around them. Everyone came in for their own reasons, worked with their own intensity, and contributed to an effort that was more than just an after dinner workout.

I am thankful to the many wonderful teachers and friends who have helped me get to this point in my practice. I hope that I can continue to grow and get further and further from snobdom when it comes to yoga and other things. And I hope that my bootcamp instructor can find balance when it comes to "yoga people" because she is such a positive and kind person who gives so much to her students.

Wednesday, April 2, 2008

World Autism Awareness Day

A few months ago the U.N. declared April 2 "World Autism Awareness Day." I am on vacation from my job, where I spend my days with lots of autistic boys, so personally I am not spending a lot of my awareness on autism today. But it's always there to some degree, when I see kids out in public and something about their behavior sends up a red flag for me.

I was pretty blown away by the new statistics on autism which I heard today. http://www.worldautismawarenessday.org/site/c.egLMI2ODKpF/b.3917065/
When I was in grad school 12 years ago, I learned that the prevalence of autism was 5 in 10,000. When I was doing my round of clinical training at the CDMRC/CHDD, we diagnosed about 1/3 to 1/2 of the children brought there for assessment as falling somewhere on the autism spectrum. I remember worrying that I was seeing something that wasn't there, like when I first learned about various disorders and felt I had all of the symptoms. I remember thinking that this very rare disorder was not seeming so very rare. When I started working, I had many autistic students.

Today, I heard that the incidence of autism is currently 1 in 150, and 1 in 94 for boys. One boy out of ninety-four born today has autism. That is INSANE. Or enough to wreak major havoc on education, society, and the future. What is going to happen to all of these people as they get older, and who is going to care for them?

We will, I guess. We will have to think about giving our time, our resources, and our care to people who need it. We will have to educate our own children about disability and difference, so that they can connect with and relate to people who are different from themselves. And we will have to choose our political leaders carefully, because whether or not we care to fund social services and education, we will have this population of autistic people living with us. So we can give them good education and support as adults, or we can deal with the consequences of not doing so.

I should not neglect to mention that despite many the difficulties and challenges which my students face and which they present to me as an educator, they are people. Individuals with distinct personalities and quirks that are funny, fun, and sweet. Many of their traits and habits and ways of thinking remind me of myself and the fact that we all have some elements of autism in ourselves. Because people with autism just fall in a part of the spectrum of human conditions. They just have more trouble keeping those troublesome tendencies in check.

Tuesday, April 1, 2008

???

I saw this coming home today.
What is it, and why does it frighten me so? And no, neither of my posts today are April Fool's jokes.

My thoughts exactly

The other day, I was sitting in traffic. Or rather, I was drowning in traffic, in my little car, surrounded by a sea of giant SUV's. When I saw the logo of the behemoth in front of me, I did a double take -- the letters had been re-arranged. I would love to know the story behind it, because it seems to be that there is no way anyone who would drive this vehicle would be intentionally sending this new message, but had they just not noticed? Are Eco-bandits out there with screwdrivers and superglue? Where to I sign up?

The new logo looked like this: